Being born an only girlchild among my siblings, I grew up like every other normal child, playing on the sand and running around almost naked all day with other kids in the hood. There was no difference between my brothers and me or other male kids. Life was pretty cool and fun with this nothing to worry about. 


As time passed by, momma started holding me back, deterring me fro



m the usual routine with my brothers, while my brothers continued with the free, fun life and would come home whenever they choose, which is usually to have their meals. 


Why was I the only one stopped? Is that a way of maltreating me?

Is she truly my mother? I questioned myself over and over again. I became withdrawn and moody at all times.


momma noticed and called to have a word with me. I couldn't contend with the hurt feelings anymore so I let the cat out of the box.


Why are you so unfair to me?

You let my brothers have their normal lives but trap me indoors all day to do every chore all alone. Why do you hate me?

Then, momma told me the truth I didn't know.


"My child, you are not just my child, but my girl-child. Your brothers, as you know are boys and would grow to become men but you will become a woman. 

There is a clear difference between you and them.


You must know that from the day you were born a girl child, nature had assigned a great responsibility to you as a woman. Although you are still a child, you are a mother. A potential one tho. But you must begin now to get yourself ready for that role.


You should know that every member of the family( father, mother, and children) has a socio-cultural role to perform to sustain a family. And these roles cannot be interchanged. Thus, in your fight for gender equality, you must not forget the expectations of society and mankind from you as a male or female.


I must tell you this too. for any family to stand the test of time, every party involved must know, master, and play their roles diligently.


My daughter, women are not just helpmate to men, they are builders and custodians of the family. For any family to function well, it is the duty of the woman. And for the woman to efficiently perform that duty, she must start in time to learn her roles as an IDEAL WOMAN.

But you must not also forget the place of a man in the family, an ideal family.


Moreover, maybe the rise in broken marriages and divorce is mostly because people fail to stick to their roles. 

A man who knows that his responsibility is to guide and protect his family at all costs will not lose guard and defile his sacred matrimony. 

Neither will a woman of virtue dishonour herself and her husband. 


Again, when people notice red flags or cracks in their lives, and shun it or switch roles to accommodate their faults and mistakes, instead of taking responsibility and work towards amendments to improve on their weaknesses, they create bigger problems. 

We all are humans and have our flaws, no one is born perfect and we are not expected to be perfect. But we must accept our mistakes and tolerate the mistakes of others.


So, my dear daughter, I believe you can now see how much I love you.

Am doing this now to protect and save you tomorrow.

Womanhood is a great privilege from nature but it comes with a great deal of hard work, responsibilities, and sacrifices. 


And to become an ideal woman, you must start on time to learn, unlearn and relearn the course of womanhood"

#ProudToBeAGirl💯💯